Being in love- To what extend is it deemed unsuitable?

[~*RiNaJaY*~]

Love is everything, that's what a lot of people say. But to what extend is it deemed unsuitable? Some people can kill for love. Some can die for love. And some would do something so grosteque that no one could comprehend what was going through that person's mind. Sure, love is a wonderful thing. But it can also be very torturing especially if there are obstacles. I once had a friend who refused to sleep, eat and talk to people just because she broke up with her boyfriend.

I think that there should be a limit to what a person does for love. But can one fight what one is doing when one is under the influence of love? I personally could not fight it. I was all crazy when i broke up with my boyfriend too.

Another question is how do we stop ourselves from falling so deeply in love with someone that we do not care about other things around us? Most people wish that they can control themselves. But we fall in love without really realising it and we plunge so deep that if anything happens, we'll go all ballistic and depressed. Is it even possible to control it?

[Melvin]

well i agree with what you have said so far.. in fact i have also been very depressed over love and wanting to just give it up...

i think that we should not be hurt because of love... and both parties have to truly care about each other, so that even in a break-up, they do so in a way that doesn't hurt so much..

Source: http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=love
1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.

However, we should not be too obsessed about it, just like anything else in life, you need to strike a balance!

[AbuseYouDNA]

My view is that, let every single thing happen for it is meant to be.

Yes, you cant forget the one who gave you flowers first thing when wake in the mourning.

Yes, you cant forget the one who write you love poems about how he/she actually hates you.

Why not preserved this feeling untill one day, you forgot it ever happen???

Why not writing down all those love story in your diary untill one day, you lost it because you submitted it to your English teacher as if, it is your english essay writing book???

What you can also do is, divert your love or attention to someone else, your family and friends.

You will learn something from the good or bad things that happen to you.
One day, you wake, you will, feel stronger and confident about yourself.

Beattles didnt came out with the song "LEt It bE" for the sake of earning our 2 cents...

Jay Chou has no intention to make fun of a slow and multi-color shell "Snail"...

And Vincent Fang never thought his contribution would meant so much for us...

Oh...out of topic edi...I talked too much.
My opinion => Enjoy your life while you have the chance....no fuss....no obsession...no excorism...

[skyline]

Love becomes dangerous when one is unable to act independently on their own. If one's decision is always based on the other person, that is dangerous. If one gives up their own lives to be with that other person... that is dangerous... I have a suite mate that is about drop out of one of the most prestigious schools (Cal Poly San Luis Obispo) and go to a community college just because she misses her boyfriend. So she is about to drop down a couple notches in the game of life just because she's in love. It is mainly dangerous when one is in more control of the other... That's an obvious problem in the world today.

Love is not when two becomes one... Love is when two people can balance their lives around each other. Never say the other person is the center of your world... they are only a part of the center of your world. If you have to make a decision on what's more important (i.e. the person or your job), that is not love. Love is a choice. It is your choice whether or not to fall for that person in the beginning. And because it is a choice, once you make the choice to love... you must love unconditionally... you have to love the other person for everything they are and everything they are not.

Just because you love someone... doesn't mean you have to be with them... just love them.

[ryox]

Personally, I think that they should just put the past behind them and moved on. What has happen had happened and no one could change that fact.

Though, i think that the jap government should still show respect to the chinese by not visiting their war shrines anymore...

[Melvin]

Though, i think that the jap government should still show respect to the chinese by not visiting their war shrines anymore...

hmm, how is that related to being in love..

i think that if you're too young, you're unsuitable for love

[optictrd]

I agree but you got to look outside the box for a minute no one is prefect realstionships will have its ups and downs no matter where you are who you are with at the time it will happen no one is prefect not even me hell i broke with this girl this summer but i regret it.. the reason why we broke up is we were fighting a lot but we still love each other even tho we regret not going out as BF/GF and now we are still friends i mean like it like that...

[Melvin]

to answer this question straightforwardly and directly...

if it takes too much stress on you, just give it up... i mean.. you don't have to be so obsessed with love, and finding the one that is just right for you.. i think that the future is ours to make, and even a bad person can turn good..

i think love would nowadays be simply a component of life, perhaps 20% of life.. still, it is important, no doubt, don't ignore it..
i think that in life it is important that we weigh different parts of our life on a multi scale weighing machine... if you keep focusing on simply one aspect, it would simply get heavier and heavier.. and the rest would be simply out of balance.. i think we need to balance our love life with 1) family 2) work 3) personal well being 4) happiness

love should not spell the end of your life or the start of it. don't think of it as the Alpha and Omega, the one and only true thing important in life.. if that were so, well, that's up to your imagination.

[crazygiggles13]

my friends like totally OTT in love with her bf...like she's changed so much and its reali annoying! like she skips skool, grades droped, sneaks outa the house, runs away, yells at her parents, (her parents caught them in the shower together and totally flipped!!!) it was pretty bad...and he's like moving to the usa in like a months time and they've onli been together for like 3 months or something...mayb a little more...i think thats outa hand...

[karyn531]

I think some of us here are still too immature to be in a relationship when it comes to age. Me, for instance. But then, most older people that are experienced usually would advice younger ones that the most important thing is studies, then only go out dating.

To what extend it is deemed unsuitable? Well, as a teenager I think that it is unsuitable for teenager to do you-know-what.

Yeah, love is crazy. People in love to things they wouldn't when they are not in love. Love made me do crazy things as well. I think my past actions are more like, stupid.

I am a lot wiser now. Sometimes it is really unfair that such thing as 'love at first sight' exists. People say you can choose who you want to love. I don't agree with that. I fell in love with a guy that I never thought I will fall for. His kind, I mean.

Well, anyway I don't regret it. Experience is the best teacher. So I suppose something like this do happen to some ppl sometimes to make them learn while waiting for their soul mates.

I think I talk too much.

[Yue Anne]

karyn agree with you like 101 % ...

being in love, sure is something really beautiful, and yea it can really drives you nuts, nuts in a sense tht you will actually do alot of stupid stuff without you realising it! ( at least is perfectly true to me), i have been telling myself and non stop reminding myself not to put too much hope into the relationship, as i know i will get deeply hurt in the very end, but it didn't really work, whn im seriously hopelessly in love, i actually really thought tht it will last forever. ( stupid act really)
well, like wht i have said, love makes you crazy . seriously crazy. getting hurt, will definitelly happen especially when you in a relationship, just have to deal with it, go through it and learn. Not easy but there is no other way, is there?
personally, if you ask me to define LOVE, i don't think i can give you any answer, i dunno wht is it like to be in love anymore, i guess i still couldnt erase my past, but i will learn to go through it . its just part of our life.

love come and go, and note tht is not easy to find your true love,
true, you both might be in love with each other, but are you both really meant to be together?are you both really working out well? feelings alone not enough, it takes alot to be together. my friends usually tell me start a relationship whn you are ready to cry and get hurt. agree with it. but we teenagers can easily get carried away .

( i hope this make sense..lol )

[Ice]

Hey I'm really curious about this too!!! Coz I've not been in love before!!!haha!!!
So from my point of view, I might not do something so crazy as to die for love but who knows when I really fall in love....

[2539mzkinkii]

to all that says love isnt suitable to the young; your wrong. young people these days have seen/experienced so much more than the previous generations hence you see younger and younger people out together, whether hetereosexual or homosexually. nowadays you can never really expect teens to be virgins but i believe its not their fault. the media has got to them through movies etc and for that they believe its okay for them to do things that they do at their age. to me theres two types of love: true and ordinary love. to me, you can fall in love as many times as god allows you to but you can only find true love once. but to somebody else love can mean intimate rendezvous and sexual activities with maybe more than one person.
i at the beginning never thought i'd end up crying endlessly for this guy until i realised i havnt ever realy gotten over for the past 2years+. i still do enjoy his presence and like him enough to say its love. but i am still unsure what it is, maybe it is love and maybe it isnt. i wrongly overused that word many times before to many other guys, with and without feeling. i went through many phases and i myself started relationships young, they were innocent and pure until i got older and experienced more. these days i chose to stay true to one person. and for me, i am willing to wait those thousand years for one meeting lasting of five minutes for that one guy, but you can never really explain love. because to everyone, its taught to and experienced by differently and only you will know when. i still have a lifetime to experience and so does everyone else. dont rush into things like i did. it only makes you regret time. love doesnt always have to be happy and perfect. to me love can be someone waiting for someone outside in the rain or even argueing. to redeem love you do need to be ready for heartbreak and endless nights of tears and also to understand that its not your fault. breaking up time is you time. time for you to heal and smell the flowers! go out with the girls or guys. and dont go searching for love as it only leads to earlier heartbreaks, take it day by day and dont expect too much when you do find someone. because everyone is unique and nobody is the same as anyone. dont compare ex's as this only leads to conflict and pain. love is something special and you dont need media e.g movies etc to tell you how love should be, remember that its only in hollywood do you get those kisses like 'a walk to remember' or those moments like 'notebook', but you chose what you want love to be. it doesnt have to be written in the bibles, showed by the media.

[ch3rri3]

It's really hard when it comes to love...because its the heart that takes control. In other words, there's no room for rationality. So it seems that when you are in love, everything you do for love is worth it. That's why its hard to fight what one is doing when she's in love.
I think what can be done is never to take relationship too seriously so you wont get too hurt if you ever break up. But then its easier said than done huh?

[judes]

i don't think there is an age limit on love either but if you experience more in your life you'll be more secure in who you are and more certain of what you want. that way if you get what you want, then you'll be willing to fight for it.

and even if you love someone there's no guarantee that it'll work out and everything will be happily ever after. it's easy to fall in love but hard to stay in it and even harder to stay in a relationship. we're constantly changing and maybe we'll fall out of love with a person or feelings will shift and our perception of what we want will mature.

i think all i can say is that being in love shouldn't change who you are. your lover should make you a better person instead of dragging you down. he should never pull down your self esteem or make you feel less than what you are.

seeing how my boyfriend works hard in school to get what he wants made me work harder too. he's very driven to his goals and that has also inspired me to not waste my time in university. your lover should be that to you: an inspiration. not someone you have to please all the time but someone who is a joy to spend time with and talk with instead of skipping classes and doing crazy things to be with him.

and i'm old fashioned so i believe every relationship should be taken seriously, or else why would you go into a relationship? it's only a meeting of bodies instead of a meeting of minds and hearts, so why waste your time? is a brief flash of pleasure really worth the effort? that said however, i also don't believe that you should do crazy things to stay in a relationship that isn't working out, like if he cheats on you or if he ever hits you then it's time to get the hell out of there.

[Rurouni[X]]

Love is Dangerous.
There are many people that will kill or die for the people they love
Love is a powerful thing.
It can alter minds
Change a whole persons thoughts
Manipulate. totally INtoxicate and Infatuate..
Love is strong
There is no way to stop it but it does not want to be stopped. "Many times i have been in love with sweet and easeful death" Love does not last all the time. But when you find someone that you want to love and spend the rest of your life with its a special moment.
I have been hurt before.
Expecially my first relatiohship. I was stupid then. Didnt know anything.
Im smarter now. I KNOW that love is a Rose. But every rose has a thorn. You need to hold it by the stem. Then you can admire its true bueaty and aroma.
o.O..
What would you do for the one you love.. Die for Him/Her.. Kill for Him/Her
In the end its up to you. I would just Love her.'^^"